BY TIANNA NEWBY-HUNTER
If I could reach through this letter, I would hug you now because you will need one. If I could reach through this letter, I would show you love because you are desperately searching for it. There are so many things about love, I wish you knew now that will save you from a world of hurt. In this open letter, I just want to share a few things with you. Although, I can not protect you, I want you to know that I admire you because although you will experience so much pain, your heart remains full of love.
Self love can and will save your soul. Self love is the purest feeling you’ll experience thus far in your life. Self love is a never ending journey because it is limitless. There will be times where you will love yourself more than you’ll ever have. There will also be times where you will struggle to love yourself enough to want to wake up in the morning. Self love is a collateral beauty; it is with the one person you can’t escape, you. Loving yourself is a challenge because it forces you to face the ugliest truths about yourself and find the beauty in your flaws. Self love will bring you out of the most depressing points in your life. You will wake up one morning, and hate your reflection, question your life and purposes. You will learn so much about yourself, things that do not make sense. You’ll learn that mental illness is not a death sentence. You will learn to conquer your depression. It will take some time. It will be a long and hard battle… You will embrace your depression and deal with it head on. You will love yourself out your depression, little girl. You’ll look back on one night in particular, and just the memories of that what you have endured will make you stronger. You will go through a very dark period but come out on top, because the love that you have for yourself will grow. Little girl, your black is beautiful, your mind is brilliant, and you are beautifully made. You have gold mines in your eyes and diamonds at the meeting of your thighs! (Thanks ,Maya Angelou). You, little girl are bomb, and that is the modest truth.
Although you may not want to hear this, I will tell you anyway. HE is not your whole world! I REPEAT, he is NOT your whole world. He will seem like the biggest part of your world but you haven't experienced much to compare it to. You are young and naive. Love is more than you think it is. It is more than Instagram; it is more than sex. It is more than a word. Love is an action. It is a feeling; it is a connection beyond physical barriers. Love doesn't corrupt your soul, it feeds it. Love and Lust are two different things, and you confuse the two. Yes, having someone adore you is nice, but it is not worth the drama. He isn’t worth the drama. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you are more than bait. Little girl, you are the prize, not he. It should not matter that he is a star football player, popular or even if he is in a fraternity. You are all that and a bag of chips and the price just went up! He isn’t worth your grades slipping, your mental health, the lies, the rumors. The words, I love you sound so sweet, when you do not know. But little girl, he does not love you if he abuses you, lies to you, cheats on you... the list goes on. He does not love you. He loves the thought of you. Love is kind, love is gentle, love is an ongoing test of time. You will fall in love, many of times. You will fall in love again and that love may be unsure. That love will hurt you. That love will test you. You will bare your heart, your soul and it will return void. Love for you, will be a gamble and you will not get it right, on the first one. Regardless of what you may think now, he is not your whole world. There is so much to life that you still have to see. Just remember, he can be a part of your world, but he is not your whole world, little girl. Love yourself, and love from others will follow.
LITTLE GIRL, I am telling you that being a woman is hard, but it is the most amazing thing. We harbor life! WE ARE LIFE! You, little girl are something so special and you don’t realize it now because you are caught up in the world. But one day, you will realize how much value and favor you have. Little girl, you will cry, you will laugh, you will experience loss, you will experience love, you will experience death. You will encounter beautiful lies, and appreciate ugly truths. You will go from being on top of the world to wishing you were under it. You will hit rock bottom, but you will bounce back. Your heart will break, and it will be pieced back together just to be broken again. Your faith will be tested and your character will be attacked. You will fail, time and time again. You will go through a season of disappointment. What you can not see, is that you will prevail.
Little girl, if I could, I would show you love. I would show you that love is real and can be pure. If I could I would hug you, give you a warm embrace, and just tell you that everything will be okay. You are something so special, and that’s the modest truth.
The woman you are becoming.